Lately I was writing about my experience with people and groups of people throughout my life - and how I ended-up isolating myself and existing in judgment, which was in essence only reflecting my own self-judgment and mental polarity creations -
See the blog here: http://bellalive.multiply.com/journal/item/73/Relationships_as_Limitation_Bubbles_Fear_as_Self-Abuse
What is fascinating is that our 'experiences' are 'merely' the result of the equated definitions, conclusions and beliefs we accept throughout our lives: which makes it all but a program which, once realized, can be redefined in self-responsibility and self-respect –
thus changing our patterns of participation in this world in a way that will bring forth dignity for life.
Looking at my experience of how I perceived people and how I experienced being perceived by others, I see that one can in self-honesty look into and investigate what 'expectations' are connected to such experiences, meaning -
what does one expect people to think, how does one expect people to react to who and how one is, what does one fear as a reaction/feedback from others, what does one desire as a reaction/feedback from others.
Writing about this, one will see that one’s expectations emerge from one’s own self-created and/or accepted definitions of oneself, be it self-judgment and 'negative'-charged ideas (which would reflect that which one fears as feedback from others) or 'positive'-charged ideas about oneself (which would reflect that which one desires as feedback/'validation' from others).
So, this shows that what we think people think about us or what we perceive people experience toward us = is actually in fact our own mind. It is showing us what we ourselves have defined, created, accepted about ourselves - our fears and desires: both are polarity points that indicate self-separation, from the perspective that
- the 'negative' points one fears being seen/perceived as: are points that one has judged of/about oneself and thus separated from oneself, instead of transcending the points within and as self-equality
- the 'positive' points one desires as 'feedback', 'validation' or 'gift' from others: are points that one has not yet accepted within oneself as oneself but has separated oneself from, thinking and believing one needs to 'gain' or 'attain' them in order to be 'more'/'better'/'higher'.
Such points/ideas of 'more'/'better'/'higher' are showing us that we've actually defined self as the opposite-polarity ('less'/'worse' etc -the 'negative') and we're therefore now seeking and desiring the 'positive'.
So here we can see the trap of polarity within and as our mental 'values' - the things we place value on, in separation from ourselves as life.
So, in fact, until we start seeing and realizing what we (each one of us) have created as one's mind, what others will reflect to us will be our own ideas, fears and desires – and therefore looking at others and the feedback we get from others: we are basically seeing ourselves.
And THAT is where one can start with investigating the mind-polarities that exist within oneself as ideas, images, value-judgments etc, to start purifying one's (self-)definitions, removing the polarity, freeing oneself from the trap, and working towards a point of self-equality and oneness as life -
where the value is self here as life in the context of practical considerations from the starting-point of self-support as actual living, to no longer be subject to mental images, definitions and ideas about self and the world.
We are what we make real as ourselves -
and thus, self-real-I-zation is a space-time process as we dis-cover ourselves. Man Know Thyself - a process in time which entails several steps:
-seeing and recognizing what it is we have made real as ourselves and our self-experience in this world
-seeing and recognizing what the reality of our experience / what the participation in our patterns perpetuate in this world in the greater scheme
-making a decision as to whether or not such creation is worthy of life, whether or not what we've made real as ourselves in fact supports us as life
-forgiving our creation as ourselves and taking the responsibility to transform the equations of our creation, to stop the patterns of abuse and inequality/polarity and align our practical-living-participation to what's best for all/life, which is also what's best for us individually
-envisioning the practical correction- and transformation-steps required to make ourselves real as self-willed equals of life, as dignified individuals and responsible creators
-making ourselves real by walking that solution/correction/purification into beingness:
and through this we are bringing forth the transformation of our creation as humanity toward what is best for all as life in equality and oneness
Investigate further on self-realization at http://desteni.org
- especially in relation to self and relationships check out the new course: Agreements - Redefining Relationships
Self-Image and Fear of Others
Blame and Animosity
Virus Free Mind
The Emotional and Feeling Body-System and Physical Energy-Alignments